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lifeoutthere




lifeoutthere

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PostPosted:     Post subject: when to tell
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I just found out I'm Hiv+. I'm a hedosexual who was living with a woman up to a month ago for two years. We seperated on bad terms. She has made comments about her health saying I don't know how sick she really is and we would have to start uning a condom with S-- after 2 years. She had blood test taken for a swollen kidney a month before this. Do you think she knows she is hiv+ and just didn't tell me. Should I confront her with my hiv+ statis or let it go. I really loved and always will love this woman. I don't care if she gave it to me or not at this point it doesn't matter, whats done is done I can't reverse it. I'm afraid if she is not and I tell her it will get all over town. IF she is will she blame me. Lost and confused.

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fullonjohn




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PostPosted:     Post subject: As soon as possible
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While it sounds like she may be infected, you can't assume. Legally (if not morally) you should always disclose as soon as you are diagnosed. It's never easy, but it's the right thing to do.

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euwarpmatrix




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PostPosted:     Post subject: Re: when to tell
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lifeoutthere wrote:
I just found out I'm Hiv+. I'm a hedosexual who was living with a woman up to a month ago for two years. We seperated on bad terms. She has made comments about her health saying I don't know how sick she really is and we would have to start uning a condom with S-- after 2 years. She had blood test taken for a swollen kidney a month before this. Do you think she knows she is hiv+ and just didn't tell me. Should I confront her with my hiv+ statis or let it go. I really loved and always will love this woman. I don't care if she gave it to me or not at this point it doesn't matter, whats done is done I can't reverse it. I'm afraid if she is not and I tell her it will get all over town. IF she is will she blame me. Lost and confused.

lifeoutthere


Tell the truth, it work always to me. I live with my wife 7 years not knowing that I'm sick, she was also pregnant once (she decide to put him out) and she is not infected, When I find out what I have I need to make an appointment to let my doc to come to my house to tel her the news. I was not able to tel her the news alone. I even don't know if she haded or not.
She was lucky. The bed part is that she don't touch me any more (understandable) so I decide to go in my way. She just mis my income now! Wink
But you can have a chance. Don't let her go.

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lusious1970




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hello hope everything is o.k with you.replying to your post you should tell her because something similar happen to me.my baby father knew he was infected and did not let me know when i found out i was devastated as all of us so;i wrestle with the decision to tell or not and would you believe his exact words was "YOU HAD BETTER WIPE THOSE TEARS ALOT OF OTHERS GOT IT YOU DON'T SEE THEM CRYING"well GOD was good and my son was born clean now 12yrs old.now maybe that will help.are you on meds? [/b]

always hrer to talk!!!
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hope you have ben abull to tell her if you don`t and she don`t find out in time it could turn in to ads.and I don`t know if thers is any thing that can be done then.my partner left me and did not tell me witch maks me wonder if he wanted me to get ads hope you do the right thing I know it is hard but it is right [/b][/code][/url]

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`u should allways tell.my girlfriend didnt tell me.she knew she was positive for 12 years i found out after bing with her 2 years.now i m positive and single ! hope she tells next partner

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jilliann1




jilliann1

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`I told the last man I dated before our firsr date. We decided on no protection(iknow I know) now he has broke it off said now hes scared and refuses to get tested. However his mom told me she was gonna see I went to jail she even said he can lie and say I never told him since I ruined his life

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`The woman I live with was with me in the hospital along with members of my family when they told me I was HIV+.. They were all just happy I was not going to die.. Had a serious brain infection called HIV/Encephalitis. My partner will not have S-- with me.. But she loves me.. After 23 years together.. It is difficult to just end it. I do miss the pleasure of S-- to know end. It's like I crave a POZ female.. Am I so wrong?

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