Non Positive Male

[rizzurd1]

Hello All Just looking for the right answer....

I dated a Female whom was POZ.... It started off great... The conversation and being open....

Then when we got closer she got scared... Now take it we both went to the doctor to talk about the safty for myself....

I will admit it was scarey.. but she was a woman I wanted to complete me...

When we almost got to the point of being intamate.. She got scared... I was a little.. but I was well protected... (I know that not Always the case)..

She ask me to stop.. So I did... And she asked me am i sure.. I explain even in the heat that I was in....lol I am sure....

But her fearand her pain made her stop... I respect that so we went on dating not getting intamate....

She start pushing me away.. stating i cant do this to you like someone done this too me...

I told her its a situation.. and we both can get through it...

Her fear lead her to walk away....

My ? is when someone is there and willing to place love above a situation... why run...

Its all about taken chances.... So i will always be available to a strong woman who fear is real.. but willing to see where I am with this...

Need some help... I think we all need to understand each other.. and I will never stop dating a female because of a situation... only if her heart is bad...

Talk to me... :roll:

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.wow this is deep I understand her fear and most of all I respect you as a real man maybe it just was not meant to be and when that time comes you will find the right one positive or negative God bless you and I wish you all the best

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`Thats a bit complicated to explain though, I mean, without the other person's point of view.

I am not dating anybody right now but, if I was to find the right person I would probably freak out too, not because I found the person but because of the risk of passing HIV to others; specially to someone you love or feel really attracted to.

Although living with HIV nowadays is not-too-hard thanks to the medications available, being HIV+ will always be in the back of your head, while interacting with other people, even family members who might not be aware of the situation.

In my personal case, my family does not know about my status, not because I fear their reaction to it but because I don't want them to worry about me. Thanks God I am doing really good on Atripla.

So... putting yourself at risk is one thing, putting someone you love at risk is a totally different story.

[theminarets]

`i applaud you for being a negitive to let someone positive intimately into your life you have to realize we all still struggle with things be that the stigma, the guilt, or just trying to still come to grips with the diagnosis at large. Fear can be a powerful factor when a positive person wonders why someone negitive would go through all this. maybe a little overwhelming so thats why u got the pushback from her. All i can say is be there for her show her youre not going anywhere and show her what made her attracted to u to begin with..good luck keep being a stand up guy..

[steph143]

`This brought a tear to my eye and gave me hope that not everyonw will turn there backs on u and I will find smeone who will except me for who I am flaws and all

[jaszy]

`I was married to a neg man so I understand love is bigger than HIV. When I was first diagnosed I was afraid I might infect someone too. What helped me was education. I can't be comfortable with this dis-ease unless I'm educated. Trust me the education has allowed me to be free to live and love.

[mmckynzee83]

`i think her fear and concern was more for u than her. i admire the fact that u didnt let her stats change how u felt for her because i constantly think i'm not gonna find anyone to be with so u give me hope. but just know that it was more about her than u she just didnt know how to handle it. maybe she wasnt the one u was supposed to spend ur life with just keep lookin