Does dating exist?

[vertikal]

I've been HIV+ for 15 years, and have been on the "dating" sites for 2 of those years and drawn from that many of my own observations and perceptions.

The question I ask is the one never spoken, does anyone really date, or is it largely a mirage? and if it is when why is that the case? I must have read hundreds, no thousands, of profiles, all largely seeking the same thing, all speaking of companionship and "soul mates"

...but when I ask them have you actually gone out and met someone, had coffee, walked...the answer is almost alwsys...no. So my curiosity is really simple...are we all talk and no walk? There is tons of email bouncing through the ether, masses of IM's, lots of phone chatter...but we find a connection without contact.

So where is you thinking?


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[fullonjohn]

I've been poz for 11 years and have used these sites on and off for the past 7 (depending on my relationship status). I've physically gone out with about one third of the women that I've chatted with (approx.5 of 15). The others just didnt have the kind of connection to warrant meeting. So I do believe that dating does happen and sometimes it even works for a while. After some miserable experiences dating neg women, I have to believe this.

[(deleted)]

i have been hiv for 19 years now and i have used sites like these for many years and i have found i have had few responses from my own area in the uk, many from the usa, but i have to be realistic, the distance it too far.
there are i suppose why i dont get responses, my looks, my personality, my age etc etc. but i keep on looking, because in reality there is only one person i need to form a relationship and maybe that person has not appeared yet in a profile, i await for him to come along

[geman]

I know how you feel as i have been positive myself since 1992 & live in australia & find it difficult to find people to talk to so maybe drop me a line sometime. Regards Geman

[seany71]

.HI I have only been positive for 5 yrs now and i will not hide or lie about my status. I gather my uncompremising attitude has diminished chances of things happening with folk but it also acts as a filter and sorts the wheat from the chaff. Belive in youself and hang on in there! Sx

[(deleted)]

It does seem odd to read that there's a relatively small number of people with HIV actually dating others, with or without HIV, especially since this website in particular is a good place to get your feet wet and possibly meet someone who either shares your status, or is HIV+ - friendly.

The only way you'll have a chance at love again is by making yourself available. Put yourself out there; take a chance. Knowing what you want is the first step, as many people whom are negative are clueless about what they truly desire in a companion as well. Be honest with yourself and ask if you're totally ready to test the waters at all--often we're attracted to the idea of dating, but really aren't ready emotionally and mentally. If you are, you'll project an aura of confidence and availability that others will intuitively pick up on. Don't hide if you're serious! Get out there and live. People don't always magically show up--you've got to do your part as well.

[(deleted)]

`afer serving 20 mos. on a 5tyr. sentance, i hope and pray to find a women here... a stupid mistake!

[vincypearl83]

.WHY I'M ON THIS SITE IS BECAUSE I'M LOOKIING FOR A LOVER, FRIENDS, SOME ONE WHO IS NICE, OUT GOING, LOVES KIDS, HAVE A CAREER, LOVES THEMSELVES AND NOT WHAT PEOPLE THINK, STRONG, JUST BE YOURSELF THAT WHAT COUNT IN THE END.

[queen4life]

`Dating is a form of human courtship consisting of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several senses, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple. The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country. The most common sense is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they're compatible by going out together in public as a couple, and who may or may not yet be having s----l relations, and this period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage.

[sueheidi]

`Am glad am not the only one sharing this thought. Here in the Ntherlands even through the mentality is more open to hiv its still very difficult to find someone willing to take the step and actua go on a date.

[(deleted)]

I find that most females are afraid to reach out and reply to an ad. Also, some of them want a younger partner. If people were not to play head games, maybe it would pay to join a dating site. I reply to several ads and no answer. Maybe I'm not good enough or there are looking for MR. perfect. I would wish them, because would pick them. Thank you.