disclosing your status to people you don't know

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ok i am gonna come clean about something i have known somebody for 2 years and i still haven't told them my status ,i have never told anyone except my family and i feel that i have the right to keep it my business as long as i am not hurting anyone i don't think theres any need to ,i also don't want to become the talk of the town ,i forgot i actually did tell one guy that i met cause he was interested in dating me and as soon as i told him ,never heard from him again ,so now i just don't tell anyone ,what is your take on this?

[sensy]

`well it's your right to keep it for your own as you said.but isn't good to get someone with the same situation whom you can share all the good and the bad?

[revann33]

`You do not need to tell anyone. What you should do, though, is find someone you can talk to about what is going on with you. You don't have to go through this alone.

[(deleted)]

.You don't have to disclose anything about your status until you feel you are ready, but; I agree that you should never feel like to have to do this alone. I have learned to ask myself one question.."At the end of the day when I lay my head down to sleep , does it really matter what anyone else in the world thinks?" NO! Because what other people think doesn't change who or what I am.

[(deleted)]

`I was reading your forum post and I totally feel for you. Never compromise your privacy for just anyone.
Someone who loves and cares about you isn't going to disappear when you tell them your status, they will stick by you.

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`I agree with the many comments that has been left, i dont feel the need to tell anyone of my statis just for the sake of telling them, infact the only family members that know of my statis is my two sisters,and some may not agree but i have 3 grown children that after 4 years of living with this desease i still have not told them and you know i feel there is no neeed to tell them at this time.

[smdbslyg16]

I was in this same e situation.. but I did tell the guy after all and I felt like he was gonna be disgusted or something because I saw how little he knew about this and we were like 16. I had a positive experience, although, I can't say everyone is like this. I wouldn't disclose it (again) unless I'm really serious with that person or plan to be with them forever.. it is tough and not many people understand this. I've been living with it my whole life.

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`i am looking for serious relationship anyone there

[mkedik]

`It may sound funny, but it will be better for your mental health to start disclosing. Keeping secrets, any secrets is not healthy. By disclosing you are giving yourself the respect that you are afraid that other people won't give you. Just a thought.

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`I agree, in my area, everyone who matters to me, knows about my status. I tried the whole secretive thing, and I'm sure it works for some people given everyone's situation is different, but it can backfire. In the long run, though, it saves you from ever having to explain why you've kept it from someone when they do find out, and if you're close to the person, they will more than likely find out some way.

[lizzy894]

`Having hiv is on a need to know basis: not everyone needs to know. Its wierd though fit can change on you I have told girlfriends whome ive known for a long time and that has since changed the friendships. I have told recent aquaintances and they werefine with it. I have told men with whom i was interested in and it went both ways. Some running for the hills and. Some ok but with very limited physical contact.

You choose who you tell. You cant choose how they react.

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`I told all many of my past girl friends.. It warms my heart that many that I know don't see the HIV... They only see me..

[(deleted)]

`Hello everyone. It is hard telling people that have an interest in you what your status is. People act like you don't have feelings. All they hear is HIV and ready to run.I have met men that gave me a chance unfortunately their life styles didn't agree with mine or the drama they had in their lives stressed me out. Just hang in there, we'll all find someone. Besides think of how many people don't know they have a STD or they don't want to tell you. I have ran into people being honest only after I was the one to speak first.

[biga41]

`Hello I have only told my Falmly dont know how to tell nobody it hard but would love to meet someone that in the same boat as me

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`I have disclosed my status to a ex of 2 hours and we got engaged than he came at me with I don't know about this I don't want my kids to have it your not going be alive Etc etc we broke our engagement than his sister goes on Facebook and talks about it without tagging but directed to me how we should be sent to another planet but she knows less of how I got it and I was a rate victim yet this foolishness happens a year later I found someone else been together 2 years n half now planning on getting married but he doesn't know my status and I'm way to scared he's going leave me