Butterfly862, 60

I'm definitely not the jealous or possessive type. Relationships are very important to me. I enjoy meeting people and can hold good conversations, laugh and joke. I not only need to know what a man's personal needs are, but what he needs from me as well. I think listening to a person's heart is just as important as listening to their words. I give respect first, but demand it in return. I'm up-front and honest. Being honest with people shows respect as well as self-respect in personal attributes. I value integrity, sincerity, confidence, discipline, consideration, reliability, loyalty, respect, self-control, giving, forgiving and love. I have a laid back and easy-going type personality, but I speak my mind when I have to. True strength is confidence tempered by humility, authority demonstrated by serving, giving unselfishly, forgiving unhesitantly and loving unconditionally. I believe listening intently and talking wisely are two sides of the same conversation; just like working hard and playing hard are two sides of the same lifestyle. I lead by example and judge by results. I get along best with people who have a positive attitude. However I do realize we all get frustrated, need to vent, and appreciate those times when we can openly share negative things with friends without being judged. I'd rather help a person overcome their negative behaviors by positively reinforcing good behaviors. Loving conviction will change someone's heart faster than harsh condemnation. I have a greater need to see a person's heart opened to what's right than what I believe. I get pleasure from giving pleasure. For me, kissing and touching are the most intimate expressions of ism. Love inside another person's heart will grow a lot better if you let it grow on its own.